You don’t look old enough to be a parent

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Isn’t that such a strange thing to say?

I’ve had 2 people say that to me on separate occasions and I don’t know how to respond.

It was said completely innocently, as a compliment more than anything. But it confused me.

Technically we can have babies from as young as 11, and at 21 I am at the height of my fertility and physically the best age to bear a child.

So is the implication that I don’t look mature enough to be a mother?

I’m not going to dwell on this though, because really the intention isn’t malicious or judgemental and if anything is complimentary. And as I’m not self-conscious about having had a baby young, I’m not offended or upset. I’m just a little confused by why anyone would say this. It’s only in recent years that people have started waiting until their thirties and even forties to have babies, but no-one would ever be told they look too old to be a parent.

All I can say is, Hey lady, go down and tell that to my flat stretchmark-free stomach, tight vag and indestructible pelvic floor!